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Title: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 08, 2011, 09:00:35 pm
I've been walking around with this 'secret' for far too long, and i've told a few people.
I...I don't know if you guys wanna know it, you've been always supportive and awesome, but i don't know if i'm ready to tell it here. This is the reason i love the band and the forum with all my heart, and i hope i can get some constructive comments on it.
If you wanna know, reply. Else, don't.

Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Crazywater on February 08, 2011, 09:51:10 pm
Why yes, I want to know.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Tolkki on February 08, 2011, 10:16:58 pm
I wants to know, why wouldn't we want?
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: WilllemNL on February 08, 2011, 11:47:47 pm
I want to know, especially since you think there's one or more reasons we SHOULDN'T know.  :o
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Ziza on February 09, 2011, 12:42:59 am
Sounds like a pretty lame way of getting attention...

...

Well, you succeeded :D Of course we want to know.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: yas‮ on February 09, 2011, 02:02:44 am
I hope it's not about you having hemorrhoids.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Crimzen on February 10, 2011, 12:49:43 pm
Secrets are best shared with everyone xD I wants to know!
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 12, 2011, 02:11:11 pm
I don't wanna tell  :'(

Push me further, then I might.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: yas‮ on February 12, 2011, 02:24:25 pm
Jeez. This thread just got really lame.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Ziza on February 12, 2011, 02:53:35 pm
Jeez. This thread just got really lame.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: ~futilite~ on February 12, 2011, 03:25:07 pm
I don't wanna tell  :'(

Push me further, then I might.
Shouldn't have posted it in the first place then.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Gravehill on February 12, 2011, 03:50:16 pm
Now goddamnit you tell your secrets or you will walk planks on this pirate ship of ours ayeeeeh!

...was I pushing hard enough?
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Caranfin on February 12, 2011, 06:57:11 pm
I don't wanna tell  :'(
Then don't.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 13, 2011, 12:58:20 am
Might as well just say it. It's the internet man no one knows who you are IRL. If you aren't going to you should just lock the thread. I'd be interested in hearing and helping where possible but that's something you have to decide.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: dezo on February 13, 2011, 02:01:21 am
sudo tell
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Laser.T on February 13, 2011, 02:38:43 am
Here's your choice.

a) Tell us.

b) Get banned.

 :P

Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Boaz on February 13, 2011, 02:48:33 am
Here's your choice.

a) Tell us.

b) Get banned.

 :P

Best Ultimatum Ever, you just summarized my thoughts so eloquently.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Crimzen on February 13, 2011, 05:25:27 am
Shit just got serious! *watches intently*
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: yas‮ on February 13, 2011, 02:06:17 pm
sudo tell

[sudo] password for dezo:
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: dezo on February 13, 2011, 06:39:08 pm
=)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 13, 2011, 09:31:18 pm
I'm lost <.<
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: WilllemNL on February 13, 2011, 11:20:21 pm
Jeez. This thread just got really lame.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 14, 2011, 07:02:22 am
Yeah this is lame. You asked if we wanted to hear, we said yes and you didn't tell us. I doubt anyone is going to be judgmental. Might as well lock the thread <.<
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 14, 2011, 01:42:07 pm
Yeah this is lame. You asked if we wanted to hear, we said yes and you didn't tell us. I doubt anyone is going to be judgmental. Might as well lock the thread <.<

Hey! I had a  very busy week, don't blame me, blame THEM.
I'll tell it in a few hours.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Crimzen on February 14, 2011, 02:23:23 pm
This just turned into the most anticipated thread i havent given up wanting to hear!
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 14, 2011, 06:59:46 pm
Haha ok I'll tell it?


Everyone ready?
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Gravehill on February 14, 2011, 07:10:53 pm
With this much hype and advertising I guess everyone is about boiling with anticipation. Hit it. Post it. Show us. Naw.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: megashroom° on February 14, 2011, 07:14:22 pm
(http://img408.imageshack.us/img408/5176/1276505724942.png)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 14, 2011, 07:18:49 pm
I'm gay.

EDIT: removed the angry parts as some people can be insulted by it.

I hope everyone's ok with it, and that I can get some support around here.
Also mild jokes are acceptable, racist/harsh ones aren't.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 14, 2011, 07:31:06 pm
That was a big letdown... I was going to ask if you were gay but honestly I thought it was something bigger than that. Well good for you for coming out. I'm a religousfag as you say, but I'm not one to judge people. I find it ironic that you expect people to respect your decision and insult a huge group of people at the same time. Anyway, good luck with this and hopefully it's a step toward letting others know and being happy with yourself.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 14, 2011, 07:35:05 pm
Ah, awesome :D

I already told some friends about it, they are ok with it.
The insults were not actually neccesary, and awesome that you are ok with it :D
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Boaz on February 14, 2011, 07:39:26 pm
I dont know why you thought the forum wouldnt be ok with it, in general the forum is a very accepting place. Mostly im pissed at you that you drew this out for so long, god just say it and be done with it.

...and good for you for coming out
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 14, 2011, 07:43:06 pm
Ty, I understand that.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 14, 2011, 08:00:37 pm
I just don't understand why you decide to jump to conclusions and assume all people associated with religion are going to throw their holy book of choice at you and tell you you're wrong, calling them (me included) religiousfags, yet you want everyone to be accepting of you? Seems like the wrong way to go about that to me.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 14, 2011, 08:17:44 pm
I just don't understand why you decide to jump to conclusions and assume all people associated with religion are going to throw their holy book of choice at you and tell you you're wrong, calling them (me included) religiousfags, yet you want everyone to be accepting of you? Seems like the wrong way to go about that to me.

You're right about that. I should've thought about it in the first place, on this forum there would certainly not be religious extremists. Second, why would people even want and try to say it's against 'God's will?'
Those are quite the paranoia thoughts if you think about it.
Which brings me to the conclusion that i've should just said 'I'm gay' instead of all the whining about religion in the post.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 14, 2011, 09:15:25 pm
I just don't understand why you decide to jump to conclusions and assume all people associated with religion are going to throw their holy book of choice at you and tell you you're wrong, calling them (me included) religiousfags, yet you want everyone to be accepting of you? Seems like the wrong way to go about that to me.

You're right about that. I should've thought about it in the first place, on this forum there would certainly not be religious extremists. Second, why would people even want and try to say it's against 'God's will?'
Those are quite the paranoia thoughts if you think about it.
Which brings me to the conclusion that i've should just said 'I'm gay' instead of all the whining about religion in the post.

It's all good dude. I'm not sure about other religions, but being Christian I try my hardest not to judge anyone; I have no right to. Everyone has their own issues no matter how big or small, myself included. While I don't agree with homosexuality, I realize that if it makes someone happy then that is their own issue to deal with and I have no right to bash you for that. I honestly hope you are able to find happiness in your choice since, to me, that is what is most important in life. People who openly judge others are quite obviously compensating for some of their own problems and are unable to realize their own shortcomings, or at least that's what I think.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 14, 2011, 10:40:10 pm
Awesome :D

I respect your opinion, and understand that you don't agree with it.

Tbh, i hate the people who are acting stereotype when they've come out, and i'm certainly not gonna behave like that. :)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Rareitor on February 14, 2011, 10:43:50 pm
I'm gay.

Oh ok, now, what was that big important possibly embarrassing and or life threatening secret you wanted to tell us about again? :D </troll>

Also, congrats in bashing open that closet  ;D BATTERING RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAM!
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: ~futilite~ on February 15, 2011, 12:13:39 am
You didn't have to be afraid, maybe you know Sirix is gay, too, and the forum members aren't insulting him every day ;)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: yas‮ on February 15, 2011, 01:38:34 am
As long as you don't force buttsecks on anyone and are not advertising your gayness all over the place it's OK.
I prefer lesbians though. Hot ones. Making out. Naked.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: dezo on February 15, 2011, 01:43:19 am
Good on yer man!
Achievement unlocked. ;)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Crimzen on February 15, 2011, 07:48:09 am
Congrats! I have been off and on this forum for a while due mainly to internet issues and busyness. But this place have never seemed judgemental or harsh towards anyone! I also know it can be hard to bring something like that up. Congrats! Im a Christian and may not agree with everything but I am not judgemental person. I would never bash someone for their own personal choice. Thats the beauty of free will and choice. Thanks for waiting forever too! Jeez lmao
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: gaijin on February 15, 2011, 11:52:48 am
The insults were not actually neccesary

You LIE. Insults are mandatory.



(http://images3.cpcache.com/product/186933153v3_240x240_Front.jpg)




Good on ya. ;)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Gravehill on February 15, 2011, 06:19:30 pm
Good thing that you have courage and wisdom to be openly true to yourself. Trying to pretend being something that one ain't or trying to hide so important part of self as sexuality is not healthy on long run. It makes life a nightmare. So... I'm happy that you've found your way to be full at last. Living a secret life or - what's even worse - not living it at all makes life pretty miserable at times. I know from personal experience. So... I'm happy for you :)

PS : I'm christian as well, been believer for years and years... But I'm not living my life blindfolded, judging people and thinking that I'm somehow better than others ('cause I'm not). I just believe that we should love more because it makes life good - who you love and what gender your partner is or is not... That is irrelevant in the end. Only people it should concern is those who love or share their intimate moments with each other. Love and sexuality makes life more fun, exciting and better IMO. So if you're expecting biblebashing you're not going to receive it from this religious geek here either... I just wish that you live long, happy and full life with all love and sexuality you ever want :)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Jack Lupino on February 16, 2011, 05:08:18 pm
(http://userserve-ak.last.fm/serve/_/86871/Ben+Gibbard.jpg)

Anchor away, sailor!
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Casper on February 18, 2011, 04:24:12 am
I'm straight.
Don't see me making a thread about it, though.
...MAYBE I SHOULD
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 18, 2011, 06:55:31 am
I'm straight.
Don't see me making a thread about it, though.
...MAYBE I SHOULD

Zomg Lysander = Lysix?

Also, I kind of agree.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Valentine Revolution on February 18, 2011, 10:45:42 am
I can only speak for myself of course; but coming out is as much about accepting it in yourself as it's about some kinda of PSA. Words and feelings are given weight as we voice them. Straight is the 'default', we are the custom install option ;) Over the internet especially, if I don't "come out" then a lot of people assume I'm male when I mention my girlfriend, or they know I'm female and keep asking about my "boyfriend" and I have to correct them. Next time you're in front of the TV for a proper veg out, count the number of gay vs straight couples you'll see in advertising.

We are a community, and it's important people can talk about these things with the confidence that they won't be insulted or hated. While having a go at religious people is stupid, it's worth remembering that gay people still get a lot of hate from religious types, even our own parents. Because God is more awesome than your kids am I right?

All sexuality is awesome and we should all be more open about it, no matter your flavour.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 18, 2011, 06:30:40 pm
Yes. I totally agree.
+10 achievement points.

But why sailors, i hate them
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 19, 2011, 07:24:48 pm
I can only speak for myself of course; but coming out is as much about accepting it in yourself as it's about some kinda of PSA. Words and feelings are given weight as we voice them. Straight is the 'default', we are the custom install option ;) Over the internet especially, if I don't "come out" then a lot of people assume I'm male when I mention my girlfriend, or they know I'm female and keep asking about my "boyfriend" and I have to correct them. Next time you're in front of the TV for a proper veg out, count the number of gay vs straight couples you'll see in advertising.

We are a community, and it's important people can talk about these things with the confidence that they won't be insulted or hated. While having a go at religious people is stupid, it's worth remembering that gay people still get a lot of hate from religious types, even our own parents. Because God is more awesome than your kids am I right?

All sexuality is awesome and we should all be more open about it, no matter your flavour.

Right but if my posts made me sound gay or like a woman, and I didn't have my gender on my profile I don't think I would make a thread explaining the fact that I'm a guy and I'm straight. People would get it eventually.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Valentine Revolution on February 19, 2011, 07:51:19 pm
Like I said, you're the default. I know, I do it too, but we pretty much assume "straight male" until proven otherwise. So you're wouldn't make a thread, that's cool, but if you really don't care either way why bitch about it?
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 19, 2011, 10:32:26 pm
I didn't bitch about anything. Lysander brought up a point that I partially agree with, and I shared my reasons why. No need to get defensive.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: yas‮ on February 20, 2011, 12:24:22 am
Relax guys.

(http://www.lindasog.com/pics08/02/vp2.jpg)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 20, 2011, 01:34:50 am
Is that The Village People?
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Gravehill on February 20, 2011, 03:09:31 am
No, it's my family portrait.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 20, 2011, 03:21:19 am
I'm jealous <.<
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Casper on February 20, 2011, 05:59:16 pm
Like I said, you're the default. I know, I do it too, but we pretty much assume "straight male" until proven otherwise. So you're wouldn't make a thread, that's cool, but if you really don't care either way why bitch about it?

Nobody is bitching.
People "assume" that because it IS the norm. Whether you want to dispute this or not, the fact is that men fuck women to have kids and keep the human race alive. A high percentage of us are naturally attracted to the opposite sex, and it is this drive that keeps the population going.

I don't care if someone is straight. I also don't care if they're gay. What I DO care about is people who think they have to announce it to the entire world as if they're the only person to ever experience it. Take this thread, for example. I'm sure MachinaeFREAK is a great guy, but I don't care that he likes men now. Sure, if I suggested he had a girlfriend at some point and he went "nah, i'm gay", that'd be a situation where his sexuality warrants revealing.

The point is, we're all equal. Whether I fuck dudes or girls is nobodys business and nobody should feel as if they have to dedicate an entire topic/conversation to telling people that, because it implies that it's wrong or that they need to justify it. When they don't.

Zomg Lysander = Lysix?

Yep.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Jack Lupino on February 21, 2011, 01:26:27 pm
It's an open board. People can post whatever the fuck they want in according with the rules of the General Board.    ;)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 21, 2011, 03:23:06 pm
It's an open board. People can post whatever the fuck they want in according with the rules of the General Board.    ;)

I don't think the issue was whether he can or can't, more like if it's necessary or not. I'd say I have to agree with just about everything Lysix said, however, at the same time I understand how something like this could be difficult to talk about and sometimes it's nice to just get something off your chest in the form of a forum post. This forum is generally very accepting and it's one of the reasons I like it here so much, and the most important thing is making sure machinaeFREAK knows nobody here is going to think differently of him because of his lifestyle; the same goes for anyone here. The MaSu forum welcomes everyone, so we should all just hug and be happy. :)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on February 21, 2011, 05:39:15 pm
OK thanks all

Now if you'll excuse me, i need to delete this topic before someone i'd want to know finds out.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Laser.T on February 22, 2011, 10:44:56 am
Sadly, we still live in a world where, to many, being gay is an abnormality. That is why many gay peeps feel the need to make coming-out a big announcement. I look forward to the day when everyone is used to and accepting of other people's choices, and when gay peeps no longer feel the need to "come out of the closet".

What i'm saying is: yes, "I'm gay" announcements are annoying, but the people who have a problem with gays are even more annoying. And thankfully, we have no one like that on the forum.

So, congrats machinaeFreak. I don't care that you're gay, but I'm happy for you. Now, if you were an esper, alien or time-traveller...
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Jack Lupino on February 22, 2011, 12:32:18 pm
It's an open board. People can post whatever the fuck they want in according with the rules of the General Board.    ;)

I don't think the issue was whether he can or can't, more like if it's necessary or not. I'd say I have to agree with just about everything Lysix said, however, at the same time I understand how something like this could be difficult to talk about and sometimes it's nice to just get something off your chest in the form of a forum post. This forum is generally very accepting and it's one of the reasons I like it here so much, and the most important thing is making sure machinaeFREAK knows nobody here is going to think differently of him because of his lifestyle; the same goes for anyone here. The MaSu forum welcomes everyone, so we should all just hug and be happy. :)
Very true, so it's cool to post that as well :D JUST POAST MOAR DAMNIT


MachinaeFREAK, why delete this thread when you're afraid someone will find out, but in the meanwhile this is about you coming out..

(http://images1.memegenerator.net/ImageMacro/5887060/MachinaeFREAK-Man-the-fuck-up.jpg?imageSize=Medium&generatorName=Snob)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: yas‮ on February 22, 2011, 01:08:02 pm
What i'm saying is: yes, "I'm gay"
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on February 22, 2011, 10:31:20 pm
It's an open board. People can post whatever the fuck they want in according with the rules of the General Board.    ;)

I don't think the issue was whether he can or can't, more like if it's necessary or not. I'd say I have to agree with just about everything Lysix said, however, at the same time I understand how something like this could be difficult to talk about and sometimes it's nice to just get something off your chest in the form of a forum post. This forum is generally very accepting and it's one of the reasons I like it here so much, and the most important thing is making sure machinaeFREAK knows nobody here is going to think differently of him because of his lifestyle; the same goes for anyone here. The MaSu forum welcomes everyone, so we should all just hug and be happy. :)
Very true, so it's cool to post that as well :D JUST POAST MOAR DAMNIT


MachinaeFREAK, why delete this thread when you're afraid someone will find out, but in the meanwhile this is about you coming out..

(http://images1.memegenerator.net/ImageMacro/5887060/MachinaeFREAK-Man-the-fuck-up.jpg?imageSize=Medium&generatorName=Snob)

LOL epic.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Blastyr on March 07, 2011, 02:21:35 am
What i'm saying is: yes, "I'm gay"
Lol. I see what you did there.

And not to hijack your thread or steal your thunder, but I'm gay too. I'm also never going to conform to the gay stereotype, either. I do understand why some people who come out change their behavior, though. Since coming out to my friends, I do act differently when I'm with them than I did before they knew. However, this is not because I feel obligated to act this way. The truth is I was suppressing part of my natural personality out of fear before coming out. I don't really have many people I would truly call friends, and the fear of losing them overwhelmed me for a long time. Then one day I realized that if they really did have a problem with it, I was wrong to count them among my friends.

I'm not out to my family yet, but I want to come out to them. Friends were easy to come out to; you choose your friends, and I chose people who accept me for who I am. Family is a different story. My dad's entire side of the family are devout Catholics. I have a cousin who still isn't allowed to bring his husband (technically his "domestic partner", since same-sex marriage is illegal in this state) of three years to any family gatherings. I haven't seen him in four years, and I always attend Thanksgiving and Christmas.

I digress. This probably isn't the place to discuss the issues of coming out to friends and family. When I initially started typing, I just meant to say that you're not alone, machinaeFREAK.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: yas‮ on March 07, 2011, 10:56:58 pm
Worst thing about those coming outs is that if so many nice guys are homosexual, calling someone a gay/fag is not that much offensive anymore.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Crazywater on March 08, 2011, 12:03:50 am
Worst thing about those coming outs is that if so many nice guys are homosexual, calling someone a gay/fag is not that much offensive anymore.
Well, start insulting each other as heterosexuals. Over here, we've been doing that for years.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: cloudstrifex on March 08, 2011, 12:30:09 am
Worst thing about those coming outs is that if so many nice guys are homosexual, calling someone a gay/fag is not that much offensive anymore.
Well, start insulting each other as heterosexuals. Over here, we've been doing that for years.

Dude, that is the most heterosexual idea ever, straight guy. Go get better ideas D=<
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: gaijin on March 08, 2011, 01:11:00 am
For some reason, strangely appropriate:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=in9SiDtJLaU
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Jack Lupino on March 08, 2011, 12:04:22 pm
Atleast it doesn't appear to be a disease/illness anymore (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fTn7ALbLYPI)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Blastyr on March 08, 2011, 03:46:13 pm
Atleast it doesn't appear to be a disease/illness anymore (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fTn7ALbLYPI)
I kind of want to laugh at the absurdity of that video.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Bearfoot on May 14, 2011, 09:12:10 pm
I'm gay.

EDIT: removed the angry parts as some people can be insulted by it.

I hope everyone's ok with it, and that I can get some support around here.
Also mild jokes are acceptable, racist/harsh ones aren't.

Dude, I'm way late to this party.. but I've been "Out"  to the forum here since before MaSU had an album deal..

If you need to talk to me I'm but an IM away ok?

although I'm bi, not gay.

Not trying to brag about myself or belittle the OP, mind you.  Just saying that I've known for years you guys are cool.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: evilcandybag on May 14, 2011, 11:14:18 pm
Not trying to brag about myself or belittle the OP, mind you.  Just saying that I've known for years you guys are cool.

Coolness is mandatory.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: gaijin on May 15, 2011, 12:19:53 am
(http://www.trollbottom.se/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/homofoBI.jpg)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: evilcandybag on May 15, 2011, 04:09:26 pm
[img]

Har har har narf.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Torp v2.0 on May 16, 2011, 01:49:10 pm
Not trying to brag about myself or belittle the OP, mind you.  Just saying that I've known for years you guys are cool.

Yeah. You're the original gaychinae. Bichinae? Machinae Gaypremacist?

Anyways, Freak, congratulations on coming out. It's good that you do. Unlike what Lysix and people have said, I think it's important that you, and other sexual minorities, do. Why? Because it adds visibility, and helps acceptance. Gays would never have been accepted today if they hadn't stood up and shown themselves. Of course, coming out here, you're pretty much preaching to the choir. We're a rather tolerant bunch, but remember what I just wrote when you eventually come out to your family.

Also, for the record, on the list of sexuality/gender related nonstandards, we've had weirder people than you. In fact, I'm probably considered way worse than you by a good portion of society (seeing as I dabble a bit in BDSM).

And I know for a fact that both gaijin and Talhoffer have a curious attraction to blowdriers.

(oh, and if things suck right now, I'd like to point you in the direction of the nice Mr. Dan Savage and his it gets better project (http://www.youtube.com/user/itgetsbetterproject). He probably knows more than me on the topic of being gay, seeing as he's been one for many, many years)
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Bearfoot on May 17, 2011, 05:50:42 am
Bisexual...

but that's an entire different kettle of fish I won't get into here.

and I prefer the term Masu Fan.. (oldschool)

As honestly my sexual preference doesn't have anything to do with my love of good music.

(Ok, Broadway show-tunes.. maybe.. I do like them.. but that's neither here nor there.)

and eh.. Torp?

I'm a furry bondage artist.. (SL screen shots)  If you want to see my work Im me.. :P
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on June 17, 2011, 03:24:44 pm
I'm necro-ing this thread because I need some help. Reply if you want to help me.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: Blastyr on June 17, 2011, 05:54:05 pm
Sure thing, man. What's up?
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: yas‮ on June 17, 2011, 08:11:57 pm
State your mind, do not post-whore.
Title: Re: Some things.
Post by: machinaeFREAK on June 17, 2011, 09:53:48 pm
:O how dare you


But anyway. So there's this guy I really like. He has all the characteristics of a gay person. Thing is; idk how to talk to him. I only see him like 6 or 4 school hours a week, and I've never even talked to him. Only confirmation I have is that I've looked into his eyes once and then he blushed.
I know you are thinking right now; Tim, listen up, there are lots of nice guys out there, and this one isn't the only one.
But it's not like that, I'm really really REALLY in love with him. HELP ME

Oh a few points which might help; I'm 'viewed' as the autistic guy at school so I can pull off stuff and still don't look like an idiot. Also people tell me I'm quite handsome and funny sometimes.
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Post by: Jack Lupino on June 17, 2011, 10:34:02 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXw6znXPfy4
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on June 17, 2011, 10:35:44 pm
Thanks.


Fucken Idiot



oh lol banned
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Post by: Blastyr on June 17, 2011, 10:48:54 pm
I'd like to start by saying that was kind of rude. He's coming here genuinely asking for advice, and metaphorically pointing and laughing doesn't help.

I went through a similar situation some years back. If you've never spoken with each other, the first few steps are going to be small. If you don't have assigned seating, try sitting next to him, introduce yourself and start a conversation (when possible; during the lesson, for instance, would not be the best time to talk). If you're stuck in separate seats once class starts, you'll just have to try and catch him before or after. If your school has multiple lunch periods like mine did, it could be hit or miss whether you can sit with him at lunch, but try for that, too. Just get to know him. Like I said, small steps.

Once you're friends, it's kind of up to you how you want to approach him about a possible relationship. The only advice I can give you at that point is not to rush things if you're not ready, specifically when it comes to the physical aspect of the relationship. In my case, we moved too fast and that's all he ended up wanting from me.

I hope this helps in some way. ;)
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on June 17, 2011, 11:07:11 pm
 :D /hug

Thanks very dude, appreciated. Have a cookie :)

Well. I've tried sitting next to him, but problem is, his class always comes in later than ours. Also, we call Dibs on our seats everyday at the back of the classroom so we can play DotA. I'm kinda done with school atm cos I'm gonna do something else anyway, (Law and Rights) so not much to do. Problem is he's always sitting in the front and I don't have much to do there, except for posting on this forum etc.

Like I told you he's kinda shy to those he doesn't know personally, so that would be a problem but I believe he fancies me because I've 'caught' him on various occasions eying me from across the classroom.
I also never see him during lunch, we always go to a supermarket that's a fifteen minute walk away, and I mostly see him on my way back OR they are like 100 metres behind me and my friends.

Lol only if he physically wanted me and told me...
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Post by: Torp v2.0 on June 19, 2011, 04:12:02 pm
Riax's advice seem fundamentally sound. My advice is quite simple, as well: Just talk to him! You say he's shy, so you won't gain anything from just sitting in the other end of the room and eye flirting with him. You don't really need an excuse, but if you absolutely want to, manufacture one. "Hi, I think you dropped your pen" (holding a pen that is, of course, not his - not unless you actually manage to make him drop a pen you can pick up for him) or whatever. Then start talking. It could, of course, be a good idea to figure out a interest you both share, so as to easier keep up the pretense while chatting him up. From there, you just have to take it by yourself, really.

If you're already out of the closet at school, or at least with your friends, things will be considerably easier, as there's less pretense to be kept up to others. You don't need to make up an excuse for talking to him (or hanging out with him) to your friends if they know you're into guys, you can be honest about it. And if people at school in general know, or you don't really care if they get to know, you can be more direct with him. Of course, the latter can be negative as well - he might be more scared he'll be outed if he suddenly starts hanging out with a gay guy.
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on June 19, 2011, 05:50:10 pm
Thanks so much for the reply  ;)

Well, it would be kinda strange to just talk to him, and I'm bad at making up excuses so yeah I think it's gonna be talking. Thing is; I'm kinda afraid to be rejected, I can't handle such situations very well and he hangs out with the other 'gay' guys at his class (Lemme explain this one: The class he's in 'contains' 4 gay guys, one of them being him if I'm right about it. The other 3 are just really throwing it out there, like hugging each other in full classrooms, always touching etc.) so I'm kinda afraid that they'll be like 'omg wtf is he doing at our spot lol gtfo nub' or something like that. But it could always turn out nice, and I believe they know that I'm gay (recognizing behaviour etc.).

Well tomorrow's monday so I'm gonna try giving it a...try. lol

:)

EDIT:

If your school has multiple lunch periods like mine did, it could be hit or miss whether you can sit with him at lunch, but try for that, too. Just get to know him. Like I said, small steps.

That's a good one, but I'd have to convince my friends to not go to the supermarket or outside for a smoke. We got 3 lunch periods, first one is at 10:00 for 15 minutes, second one is at 12:00 for 55 minutes, and one at 14:20 for 10 minutes. I could try :)
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Post by: Torp v2.0 on June 19, 2011, 10:09:07 pm
You could always ditch your friends for one little lunch break...
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on June 20, 2011, 09:36:25 am
You could always ditch your friends for one little lunch break...

It's a possibility.

Little update: So yeah I found out that is name is probably Jeffrey or something, so that's a start. Furthermore I heard he got off from school or something...let's hope that's only for monday after 14:50.

...Which I find one of the most unattractive names ever.
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Post by: Torp v2.0 on June 20, 2011, 08:47:44 pm
Don't worry, once you charm him into bed (and you into his heart) you can give him a sickeningly cute nickname instead...

EDIT: I suggest "My jeffey-cake"!

Also, now I want Jaffa cakes...
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on June 20, 2011, 08:58:42 pm
Don't worry, once you charm him into bed (and you into his heart) you can give him a sickeningly cute nickname instead...

EDIT: I suggest "My jeffey-cake"!

Also, now I want Jaffa cakes...

I cant think of any haha


Well I hope I can reach him tomorrow

Whole day in pc lab

COME ON J BE THERE


Edit:
Well, I think it's kinda over for me. I probably misheard his name, which isn't Jeffrey I think. Furthermore, I heard one of the other gay guys saying he was done with school, finishing all assignments or something or going on holiday earlier, that he didn't have to come anymore.
That was monday. I hoped it only was the IT stuff but it's not, which sucks. I'll probably never see him again now >.<

Guess it's my own fault.

But I could always try to fix one of the others...
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Post by: Blastyr on June 23, 2011, 12:32:14 am
Edit:
Well, I think it's kinda over for me. I probably misheard his name, which isn't Jeffrey I think. Furthermore, I heard one of the other gay guys saying he was done with school, finishing all assignments or something or going on holiday earlier, that he didn't have to come anymore.
That was monday. I hoped it only was the IT stuff but it's not, which sucks. I'll probably never see him again now >.<

Guess it's my own fault.

But I could always try to fix one of the others...

:( Sorry it didn't work out for you, man.

There will be others, don't worry.
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on June 23, 2011, 06:11:46 pm
Well god damnit. This is strange. He now showed up at the pc lab @ 3 am. So idk what the fuck the deal is with his class, but I'm seeing him now for 3 hours in a week or something. I should really go talk to him before he's really gone. And I will because I have a plan ^^
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Post by: yas‮ on June 23, 2011, 11:18:58 pm
Dude, stop acting like a girl. Yeah, you're gay, but you are still A MAN. Go face your problems instead spilling them out on the interwebz. Trust me, it'll be a lot better. A man should chase his dreams, even if they involve asking other men out. Or buttsecks. Or unicorns. Or other things that gay people dig.

PRO TIP: Get the dude's full name and facebook him. It'll be easier to chat with him there if you are that shy.

Disclaimer: above tips shall work with girls, I've got no experience of using them on men.
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Post by: gaijin on June 24, 2011, 12:31:17 am
Dude, stop assigning a sex to behaviors. Being chatty and insecure about actions and emotions isn't a girly trait - it's a trait. If your view of male/female things and behaviors is stuck in the 1800:s... so be it, but don't knock someone for reaching out for help, that's just fucking rude. Rude, and uneducated. Your post isn't only unhelpful, it's also full of outdated preconceptions. Get with the program, man.
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Post by: evilcandybag on June 24, 2011, 12:39:44 pm
Dude, stop assigning a sex to behaviors. Being chatty and insecure about actions and emotions isn't a girly trait - it's a trait. If your view of male/female things and behaviors is stuck in the 1800:s... so be it, but don't knock someone for reaching out for help, that's just fucking rude. Rude, and uneducated. Your post isn't only unhelpful, it's also full of outdated preconceptions. Get with the program, man.

This, basically.
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on June 24, 2011, 01:35:32 pm
Dude, stop acting like a girl. Yeah, you're gay, but you are still A MAN. Go face your problems instead spilling them out on the interwebz. Trust me, it'll be a lot better. A man should chase his dreams, even if they involve asking other men out. Or buttsecks. Or unicorns. Or other things that gay people dig.

PRO TIP: Get the dude's full name and facebook him. It'll be easier to chat with him there if you are that shy.

Disclaimer: above tips shall work with girls, I've got no experience of using them on men.

I don't see how I'm acting girly. And if I am, read the forum rules.
And do you really think I act like that in real life? Maybe a little bit, but it's part of my personality, not something I choose. And how am I not chasing my dreams? I only come here for advice and help, not to cry about how I am too shy to talk to him.

Well god damnit. This is strange. He now showed up at the pc lab @ 3 am. So idk what the fuck the deal is with his class, but I'm seeing him now for 3 hours in a week or something. I should really go talk to him before he's really gone. And I will because I have a plan ^^

Read it. I don't see how asking someone for a game of DotA is not chasing my 'dreams'.

And another thing, that facebook thing may work @ your place but it doesn't go that easily at mine. It's retarded to search someone who you like but doesn't know you for his/her facebook. Most people experience that as stalking.
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Post by: yas‮ on June 24, 2011, 03:08:51 pm
Then I'm sorry. I didn't mean to offend anyone, just to add some courage with "get on with that shit" kind of way.
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on June 24, 2011, 05:01:02 pm
Then I'm sorry. I didn't mean to offend anyone, just to add some courage with "get on with that shit" kind of way.

Ah, then I shall forgive and forget  ;)

I understand what you're trying to say, then.

EDIT:

So yeah I'm gonna ask those guys to play a game of DotA with us. I'm confident that it'll work because I have the idea one of them has the hots for me or whatever it means.
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Post by: Blastyr on July 12, 2011, 11:02:21 am
I hate to pry, but whatever came of the situation with this guy? Did anything develop?
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on July 23, 2011, 05:41:35 pm
Well no. It never worked out because I'm too much of a pussy to even talk to those guys I liked, but maybe next schoolyear will give new oppertunities.

Tho fuck me for not talking to him, I'm quite desperate atm hehe.
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Post by: seniyajw on August 04, 2011, 01:32:01 pm
edit: Them adbots sure become increasingly sophisticated nowadays.
- WereVolvo
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on August 05, 2011, 07:15:54 pm
Thanks...wait, what?

WE GOT A SPAMBOT IN HERE!
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Post by: WereVolvo on August 05, 2011, 09:26:45 pm
Thanks...wait, what?

WE GOT A SPAMBOT IN HERE!

BANHAMMER AWAY!
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on August 05, 2011, 09:28:36 pm
YESSSSSSSS SMITE JUSTICE UPON THY FOES


...


Sigh. It feels like I'm really depressed right now. I mean, I really need a boyfriend TBH. I know this isn't the place to cry about it (or is it) but ah well.
Sometimes I wish I was straight. Would've been so much easier that way. Sometimes girls tell me I'm kind of cute. Why can't I just use that.
Riax, would you help me out here...
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Post by: Blastyr on August 15, 2011, 04:29:41 pm
Sigh. It feels like I'm really depressed right now. I mean, I really need a boyfriend TBH. I know this isn't the place to cry about it (or is it) but ah well.
Sometimes I wish I was straight. Would've been so much easier that way. Sometimes girls tell me I'm kind of cute. Why can't I just use that.
Riax, would you help me out here...
Aw, cheer up man. *hugs*

I remember feeling similarly (wishing I was straight) in the past, and I can tell you it does nothing to help. Truthfully, my love life might indeed be less complicated if I were straight, but my preference for the same gender adds to what makes me, me, just as much as my taste in food or music; I wouldn't be the same person if I weren't gay. Wishing to be something you aren't is tantamount to wishing you didn't exist, in my opinion. You seem to be a really nice guy, so it would be a shame if the world were without you.

I also know the feeling of just wanting a boyfriend. It's best to just let things come naturally. Just make friends, and if you end up having chemistry with any of them, you can then pursue a deeper relationship. I've found this works much better than seeking people out for the purpose of establishing a romantic relationship off the bat.
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Post by: machinaeFREAK on August 16, 2011, 12:18:25 am
Ah, thanks man :)

/swipes away tears

Well, here's maybe hope. Some of my friends are organizing this LAN which lasts from tomorrow until friday. I told 1 of them if we might go to a bar of cafe during that time, you know, I might hook up with someone. He agreed and told me he totally understands, he's so nice.

But I don't have any special feelings for him.

I overthought (?) some things about what I'm gonna 'do' about my 'gayness'. First of all, it was ofcourse a mistake to think it would be better if I were straight. For me, straight feels so plain, so boring. Gay is much more fun IMO :)

Second, I'm not going to tell my family until at least my grandparents are dead, and then still not tell my father's family; they're catholics and although they don't dislike gay people, I've never heard them talk about it or anything else. My mother's side won't mind, except they're going to ask me why I hated so much on my own 'kind' for the last years; it wasn't really hate, it was more something I couldn't relate to very well, which was answered with prejudice.

What might be a problem is me being extremely picky. Ah well, there's someone for everyone in the world :D

Update: So I told 3 'acquaintances' or something. They took it pretty well and were proud of me telling them it.

[Tim] Has earned the achievement [Out of that closet!] ''Tell 5 random close friends that you are gay. Reward: Title <is proud of himself>''

 :)